Worrying is Negative Visualization

Stop Worrying!
It is just negative visualization.

Some people think that they cannot visualize.

When I work with clients one of the biggest hurdles that they have to jump over is helping them understand that they can visualize.
They have just been visualizing the wrong things.
They’ve been visualizing everything that’s going wrong.
They have visualized a life they don’t want to have into existence.
The key of getting what you want is knowing what you want and focusing on that.
When you focus on what you don’t want that is what you’re going to get.
When you focus on what you do want that is what you’re going to get.

The way you know if you truly focused on what you want is because you will see the pictures in your head. They will manifest because you are telling yourself words which creates these pictures. Guess what, you are visualizing!

Is it the future you want or the future you don’t want?

It doesn’t matter you’ll get it either way.
So if you’re one who continually says that hypnosis, meditation, affirmations, won’t work for you because you can’t visualize, I’m here to tell you you are wrong.

You have visualized the life that you are living right now!

The one of lack, the one of want, the one of not getting what you want.

Schedule your appointment today for your free consultation

Donel Rourke, C.Hyp.

Be the Parent You Want To Be

66 POSITIVE WORDS

TO SAY TO YOUR CHILD

  1. I’m grateful for you.
  2. You make me proud.
  3. Your words are meaningful.
  4. You have great ideas.
  5. I love being your parent.
  6. You don’t have to be perfect to be great.
  7. You opinions matter.
  8. You are important.
  9. You are loved. 
  10. I believe you.
  11. I believe in you.
  12. The family wouldn’t be the same without you. 
  13. You are valuable.
  14. You can say no.
  15. You can say yes.
  16. I know you did your best.
  17. You were right.
  18. I accept who you are.
  19. We can try your way.
  20. You are helpful.
  21. You are worth it.
  22. You make me happy. 
  23. I love your creativity.
  24. Being around you is fun.
  25. I can’t wait to hear about it.
  26. Don’t be afraid to be you.
  27. You’re making a difference.
  28. I’m excited to spend time with you.
  29. You are interesting. 
  30. I love seeing the world your way.
  31. It’s good to be curious.
  32. I love the way you tell stories. 
  33. What you did was awesome. 
  34. I admire you.
  35. That’s a great question.
  36. Your friends are lucky to have you.
  37. I trust you.
  38. That was a really good choice. 
  39. Seeing you happy makes me happy
  40. Being your parent is my favorite job.
  41. I learn new things from you everyday.
  42. You make me better.
  43. You are a good boy/girl/child.
  44. Thank you for being you.
  45. I’m so glad you’re here.
  46. You look great.
  47. I understand you.
  48. Watching you grow up is the best. 
  49. That was really brave. 
  50. I forgive you.
  51. I appreciate you.
  52. We all make mistakes. 
  53. Yes, me too.
  54. You are very good at that!
  55. You can try again tomorrow.
  56. Nobody is perfect.
  57. I love how you said that.
  58. Not everyone will like you, and that’s OK.
  59. You did that so well.
  60. I’m listening.
  61. That’s a very fair point.
  62. You are beautiful inside and out.
  63. I love you.
  64. I could never stop loving you.
  65. You are enough.
  66. You make my heart full. 

This list was passed on from another therapist and I use this when I work with individuals to help them be the best parent to themselves. You see most of us grew up wishing, hoping, praying for our parents to say all the right words.

You cannot change the past, you can only change the meaning of the events that imprinted in your mind.

During an RTT session I guide you to be the loving parent to yourself. To say all the words you needed to hear but didn’t. The healing that takes place is magical to watch.

So for all my parents these are the words your children really need to hear.

Say them often, say them everyday and watch as your children blossom into the incredible individual they were born to be.

For the adults that need to heal from their past so they can tap into their full potential schedule your free consultation to find out how RTT can help you.

Donel Rourke, C.HYP.

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You are the Medicine

“Cure yourself, with the light of the sun and the rays of the moon.
With the sound of the river and the waterfall.
With the swaying of the sea and the fluttering of birds.

Heal yourself, with the mint and mint leaves,
with neem and eucalyptus.

Sweeten yourself with lavender,
rosemary, and chamomile.

Hug yourself with the cocoa bean and a touch of cinnamon.
Put love in tea instead of sugar and take it looking at the stars.

Heal yourself, with the kisses that the wind gives you
and the hugs of the rain.

Get strong with bare feet on the ground and
with everything that is born from it.

Get smarter every day by listening to your intuition,
looking at the world with the eye of your forehead.

Jump, dance, sing, so that you live happier.

Heal yourself, with beautiful love,
and always remember… you are the medicine. “

~Maria Sabina
Mexican curandera and poet.

The words she spoke, the lives she touched, the souls she has guided to healing will continue to spread her message, You are the Medicine.

Donel Rourke, C.HYP.

BC Muscle and Sex

So I just learned about the Bulbocavernosus (Bc) Muscles today for my research for my course I am making and because I love to share what I learn with my followers here you go.

So what the hell is the Bc muscle?

Bulbocavernosus muscle (pelvic floor muscle that supports and compresses the clitoral bulbs)

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The benefits of strengthening BC muscle in Men
1. Prevent premature ejaculation
2. Prolong duration of penis erection
3. Control ejaculation time
4. Rock hard erection
5. Prevent prostatism
6. Improve dysuresia( peeing disorder)
Step 1 : Find out the location of BC muscle
It is important to find out the location of BC muscle before starting BC muscle exercise.
You can refer to the picture of muscle anatomy above.
One of the first ways to locate the BC muscle is when you stop your urine flow. Mentally squeeze the base of your penis to stop yourself urinating mid flow.
The second technique is to feel the pelvic floor with your fingers while lying on your back.
Lie down, raise your knees and then use a couple of fingers to push gently onto your perineum, this is the area of skin between your testicles and anus.
Now squeeze the muscles you would if you are stopping yourself midstream. Do you feel the contractions under your fingers?
The other way to find out the BC muscle is to know the muscle which moves erected penis up and down. I call it “Dick Dancing”  When you squeeze/contract the pelvic floor muscles, you should find your erection will rise up and when you relax the squeeze, it should drop down a little.

Beginning exercise
Breathe in slowly and start pulling penis with your BC muscle
You can strengthen BC muscle with the exercise of three times a day for 2-3 minutes per time
Breathing is important factor at BC muscle exercise like as other exercises.
Breathe in slowly when pulling the muscle, and breathe out when you relax. Use only BC muscle not other muscles like as abdomen, thigh and buttock when you exercise BC muscle.
Step 2: Warm-Up Train the BC muscle three times a day and 2-3 minutes per time
1. Pull and relax the muscle for 1 second with 30 times
2. Continue and repeat this warm-up everyday for 3 weeks after three weeks add workout
Step 3: Workout– exercise 10 times after doing warm-up first
Pull BC muscle slowly for 5 seconds with the maximum strain and hold this state for 5 seconds, then relax slowly for 5 seconds
Repeat this exercise 10 times within 10-15 minutes
 Kegel Exercise Mistakes
1. Contracting too Strongly Contracting too strongly or with too much effort is often a major problem, especially for men who are beginners starting their Kegel exercises.
The Fix Do your Kegels gently, especially if you’re a beginner starting out. Feel your pelvic floor muscles tensing and releasing using the correct action. When you feel confident in your Kegels technique, you can then progress to increasing the strength or intensity of your exercises.
2. Breath Holding Holding the breath is a common mistake during Kegels. One problem with holding your breath is that your pelvic floor muscles don’t learn to work when you breathe normally. As a result when they need to work during your everyday life, they won’t work well making your training much less effective than what it could be.
The Fix Practice breathing normally during your Kegels. Contract your pelvic floor muscles gently at first and start with small shallow breaths during your exercises to get the right breathing and pelvic floor muscle coordination. As your pelvic floor becomes better trained, you’ll find that you’ll be better able to breathe normally during your Kegels.
3. Tensing the Upper Abdominal Muscles Abdominal tensing is one of the most common mistakes doing Kegels. This mistake creates downward pressure on your pelvic floor making your exercises more difficult and potentially making pelvic floor problems worse.
The Fix There are two solutions to this problem. The first is to breathe normally during your Kegel exercises and breathe into your upper abdomen.
The second solution is to contract your pelvic floor muscles gently rather than too strongly.
4. Practicing the Wrong Kegels Exercise Some men mistake exercises such as the Bridge or abdominal curl exercises for pelvic floor exercises.
The Fix The correct Kegels technique to get improve your bladder control or erectile function involves : tightening as if to stop the flow of urine AND shortening or retracting the penis inwards towards your body at the same time.
You can test whether or not you’re using the correct technique by stopping or slowing the flow of urine once a week as a test not as an exercise.
Referred Pain Patterns:
Pelvic Floor Muscles Pelvic Floor Muscle Referral Pattern Possible Patient Complaint

Superficial Muscle Layer
Bulbocavernosus Perinealpain, urogenital structures Dyspareunia,pain with orgasm, clitoral pain
Ischiocavernosus Perineal pain, urogenital structures Dyspareunia, pain with orgasm, clitoral pain
Transverses perineum(Superficial transverse perineal) None documented Dyspareunia
Anal sphincter(Sphincter ani externus) Posterior pelvic floor, anus/rectum, pubic pain Burning or tingling in anus/rectum,
pain before/during/ after defecation
Deep Muscle Layer
Levator ani anterior:Pubococcygeus/puborectalis Suprapubic region, urethra,bladder, perineum, pain/symptoms Increased urinary urgency & frequency,
Painful urination after intercourse, dyspareunia
Levator ani posterior:Iliococcygeus Sacrococcygeal, deep vaginal, rectal, perineal, anal pain
Pain before/ during/after defecation,dyspareunia, thrusting pain
Other Deep Pelvic Floor Muscles
Coccygeous Sacrococcygeal, buttock pain Pain with sitting, during defecation,
intestinal fullness, anal pressure/pain
Obturator internus Anal, coccyx, vulvar, urethral, vaginal, or posterior thigh pain Generalized pelvic pain, often burning or aching
Piriformis Sacroiliac region, lateral over ipsilateral buttock, posterior over Buttock, leg pain if sciatic nerve affected
ipsilateral hip, proximal 2/3 of posterior thigh

Can Rapid Transformational Therapy Help Me?

So you’re curious to find out all the amazing, fast and permeant benefits of Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®) and how it will change your life. Schedule your free consultation to find out how.

RTT® helps to identify the root cause, so you can be free from what has been weighing you down for so long. RTT® helps to break bad habits so you can lead a healthier happier life. 

Fears Phobias

Overcome fears and phobias so that you can always do what you want to: Jump with a parachute, travel by plane or whatever it is you want to do. 

RTT® works with the subconscious mind so you can get control over your emotions, reactions, anxiety and fears. 

One of the many benefits of RTT® is it can relieve stress, anxiety and fear so that you have the freedom to shine and then you can do what you always wanted to.

Rapid, Permeant

RTT® provides rapid relief, so you can enjoy the results after the first session. Improving well- being so that you can finally have more energy and do all the things that you want to yes. 

RTT® is fast so you don’t have to commit to long-term therapy. And spend tons of money on it. You will see results from the first session.

RTT® is permanent so that you can enjoy your lifestyle without the need to come back to the therapist over and over again.

Set up your Free Consultation to find out if RTT® is what you have been praying for.

Stop Trying to Get Love, Love Yourself

Most people think that being famous means you are happy, loved and adored. However, there is no amount of fame, riches, validation, accolades, or social media followers will give you the love that you desire, if you don’t love yourself.

Marilyn Monroe may have been one of the most famous sexy women on the planet, but she didn’t believe she was “enough”. Therefore, she was drawn to relationships with men who didn’t value her and she was never truly happy. What about you are you happy?

Robin Williams seemed like a happy person but we all now know that he didn’t love himself.

Robin Williams was so Funny, so talented and had plenty of fame and fortune but was just covering up for his lack of love for himself. He didn’t feel that he was “Enough”.

The more you try to show people how loveable you are the more people will see that you don’t love yourself. Stop!

This is why there are so many beautiful women, and men, who are not able to sustain a loving relationship, even though they seem to ‘have it all’.

You do not have to be ‘perfect’ to be loved, all you need to do is fall in love with yourself.

Marilyn’s and Robins life are a cautionary tale learn from it don’t repeat it.

Donel Rourke, C.Hyp.

My First Interview on a Podcast

I would love the feedback.

I was nervous but I turned it to excitement and I had fun.

Love my new found confidence.

2020 has been an amazing year for me.

You Are Not Falling Apart, You are Breaking Free

Me: Hello God.
God: Hello…
Me: I’m falling apart. Can you put me back together?
God: I’d rather not.
Me: Why?
God: Because you’re not a puzzle.
Me: What about all the pieces of My life that fall to the ground?
God: Leave them there. They fell for a reason. Let them be.

Me: You don’t understand! I’m breaking up!

God: No, you don’t understand. You’re Breaking Free!
You’re transcending, evolving. What you feel are growing pains, motivators that cause you to look beyond your present circumstances. You’re getting rid of the things and people in your life that are no longer serving you, they’re keeping you stuck. These pieces are falling away for a reason.
Take a deep breath and let those things that no longer serve you fall away. Stop clinging to pieces that no longer benefit you. They’re not yours anyway. They’re just experiences. Their usefulness has past, they’re not for you any longer.
Let them fall. Let them go.


Me: Once I start doing that, what will I have left?
God: You will have yourself, Only the pieces that make up your true essence.


Me: I’m afraid to change.
God: I keep telling you:
YOU’RE NOT CHANGING!

YOURE WAKING UP! YOU’RE REMEMBERING! 


Me: Remembering Who?


God: Who I created you to be!
A spirit inhabiting a human body. You are light, love, charity, hope, courage, joy, mercy, grace compassion, and YES forgiveness.
I made you for so much more than those shallow fragments that ego HAD convinced you that you are. No longer decide to adorn yourself by clinging to disillusion, and fear.

Let those things fall away. I love you!

Don’t change! Become !

Don’t change! Remember!

Remember and Be who You truly are.

Choose the life I created for you.
I’m gonna keep telling you this until you remember.

Me: There goes another piece.
God: Yes. Let it be like this.
Me: So… I’m not broken?
God: No, but you are breaking free, breaking through the darkness, becoming the dawn.

It’s a new day. Remember!!!

Remember who you really are!!!”

Author Unknown

You are Enough

Donel Rourke, C.Hyp

90 Second Rule

When you feel an emotion raising up in you, is it coming from an outside source or from your own thoughts?

One thing I tell myself and those I counsel is truly feel the feeling that you are feeling, for only 90 seconds.

Truly feel joy, happiness, anger, sadness, whatever emotion shows up “FEEL IT”. After the 90 seconds you are no longer feeling the feeling because of an emotional response, you are now creating that feeling from your thoughts and beliefs.

Stop!!!

Don’t stay caught up in the emotional loop.

That is how you find yourself living in the known past or the predictable future.

Live in the now.

Feel the emotion of “NOW”!

Not what has happened or what could happen.

The only true reality is the present moment.

The present moment is the reality that we need to base our emotional wellbeing on.

“When a person has a reaction to something in their environment,” she says, “there’s a 90-second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop.”
“Something happens in the external world, and chemicals are flushed through your body which puts it on full alert. For those chemicals to totally flush out of the body, it takes less than 90 seconds. This means that for 90 seconds you can watch the process happening, you can feel it happening, and then you can watch it go away.”
“After that, if you continue to feel fear, anger, and so on, you need to look at the thoughts that you’re thinking that are re-stimulating the circuitry that is resulting in you having this physiological reaction, over and over again.”-Harvard brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor

Break the Emotional Loop

1)Identify the Emotional Response:

How does it feel?

Does it have a color, shape or size?

Where in your body do you feel this response?

2) Label/ Name the Emotion

Emotions are Intense: Joy, Fear, Anger, Enthusiasm, Attraction.

3) Feel the Feeling

Feelings like happiness, worry, contentment, bitterness,love, are all side effects of the more intense emotion of joy, fear, anger, enthusiasm, and attraction.

Allow the emotion to happen without judgment for 90 seconds. Feel the feeling fully for 90 seconds then release it.

Let it Go!

If you find you can’t let it go it is because of the words you are telling yourself and the pictures you are creating in your head.

If you find you are having a hard time breaking those thought patterns/beliefs find out how I can help. Schedule your free 20 minute consultation, now.

Donel Rourke, C.Hyp

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