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3 Top Tips for Loving the Life You Live Podcast with Steve Harper on Podcast Business News


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Listen and tell me what I learned from Mel Robbins.

Also, what are the two questions you should ask yourself to live a life you love?

How many breathes do I tell you to take to reset to break the emotional loop?

Thank you for listening.

Donel Rourke, CCHyp RTTP

 

 

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Review – “I Can’t to I Can” Challange for Young Children

“I Can’t to I Can”

As an RTT Practitioner helping individuals change their “can’t” to “can” is a rewarding career and now I can help young children learn early how to be their own “Cheerleader.”

The amazing Marisa Peer created the “I can’t to I can” 5-day challenge.

I Can’t to I Can” provides teachers with resources to teach simple brain hacks that can last a lifetime and turn around a child’s negative thinking within a week.

The challenge is aimed at primary-age children (7-10) with a series of mind hacks to help build confidence, self-esteem, and resilience.

Why is this so important? This will give the children the mental stamina to cope with these ever-changing challenging times and the skills that will support them throughout their life when they learn to practice them daily.

It’s broken down into 4 short videos: Instilling the Cheerleader-The Power of Words-The Power of Looping-The Power of Repetition.

The videos are short, around 3 minutes each with a lesson plan for 5 days.

One for each video and the last one to review through the previous four days and consolidate what they’ve learned.

This is available to every teacher even homeschool teachers. Get your free Pack Now!

For more details or to sign up for your free pack.

Donel Rourke, C.HYP.

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Be the Parent You Want To Be

66 POSITIVE WORDS

TO SAY TO YOUR CHILD

  1. I’m grateful for you.
  2. You make me proud.
  3. Your words are meaningful.
  4. You have great ideas.
  5. I love being your parent.
  6. You don’t have to be perfect to be great.
  7. You opinions matter.
  8. You are important.
  9. You are loved. 
  10. I believe you.
  11. I believe in you.
  12. The family wouldn’t be the same without you. 
  13. You are valuable.
  14. You can say no.
  15. You can say yes.
  16. I know you did your best.
  17. You were right.
  18. I accept who you are.
  19. We can try your way.
  20. You are helpful.
  21. You are worth it.
  22. You make me happy. 
  23. I love your creativity.
  24. Being around you is fun.
  25. I can’t wait to hear about it.
  26. Don’t be afraid to be you.
  27. You’re making a difference.
  28. I’m excited to spend time with you.
  29. You are interesting. 
  30. I love seeing the world your way.
  31. It’s good to be curious.
  32. I love the way you tell stories. 
  33. What you did was awesome. 
  34. I admire you.
  35. That’s a great question.
  36. Your friends are lucky to have you.
  37. I trust you.
  38. That was a really good choice. 
  39. Seeing you happy makes me happy
  40. Being your parent is my favorite job.
  41. I learn new things from you everyday.
  42. You make me better.
  43. You are a good boy/girl/child.
  44. Thank you for being you.
  45. I’m so glad you’re here.
  46. You look great.
  47. I understand you.
  48. Watching you grow up is the best. 
  49. That was really brave. 
  50. I forgive you.
  51. I appreciate you.
  52. We all make mistakes. 
  53. Yes, me too.
  54. You are very good at that!
  55. You can try again tomorrow.
  56. Nobody is perfect.
  57. I love how you said that.
  58. Not everyone will like you, and that’s OK.
  59. You did that so well.
  60. I’m listening.
  61. That’s a very fair point.
  62. You are beautiful inside and out.
  63. I love you.
  64. I could never stop loving you.
  65. You are enough.
  66. You make my heart full. 

This list was passed on from another therapist and I use this when I work with individuals to help them be the best parent to themselves. You see most of us grew up wishing, hoping, praying for our parents to say all the right words.

You cannot change the past, you can only change the meaning of the events that imprinted in your mind.

During an RTT session I guide you to be the loving parent to yourself. To say all the words you needed to hear but didn’t. The healing that takes place is magical to watch.

So for all my parents these are the words your children really need to hear.

Say them often, say them everyday and watch as your children blossom into the incredible individual they were born to be.

For the adults that need to heal from their past so they can tap into their full potential schedule your free consultation to find out how RTT can help you.

Donel Rourke, C.HYP.

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Anti Bullying Techniques

I really do not like it when someone bullies me.

In the past I took it personally. Now I don’t allow the bully to have power over me.

You see when you choose “not” to let in opinions that hurt you, then you become bulletproof to criticism.

Read that line again.

Do you see the word, “CHOOSE”? It is your choice to let something in or not.

Pay attention! No one can ever make you feel bad about yourself unless you let them.

IT IS YOUR CHOICE TO CHOOSE TO NOT LET IT IN.

Do you know that the most critical people are their own worst critics?

They are because they are expressing outwardly their own inner criticism, hurt and pain. The bully is “Hurting” so much on the inside, that they project what they live. They are getting hurt, bullied and made to feel they are not “Enough” by someone in their life, usually a parent. By understanding this, we can arm ourselves with the knowledge that it is not about “Me” it is about “them”.

Best-selling Author, Motivational Speaker and Leading Celebrity Therapist & Pioneering Hypnotherapist Trainer, Marisa Peer shares how simple truths can change your life.

Here are Marisa’s 5 things you can say to someone who tries to criticize you:

  1. “Thank you for sharing that.” If someone says something hurtful, you are acknowledging their opinion, dissipating any negative tension, but you don’t have to let it in or accept it.
  2. “I’m sorry I didn’t hear all of that, please can you repeat that slowly?” By asking them to repeat it and really think about what they are saying, they will often take it back or consider how it may come across.
  3. “Are you trying to hurt my feelings? Are you trying to make me feel bad about myself? Why would you say that?” If there’s a positive intention behind the criticism, by asking this you can understand the motivation behind it.
  4. “Well, that’s not going to work, I am not going to let that in.” Just like the Holy man, you don’t have to accept criticism, you can choose not to let it in. You cannot stop people criticizing, but you can change the way it affects you.
  5. “While we are sharing, did you know that critical people have the most criticism reserved for themselves? They don’t like themselves, they are their own worst critic. Your outer projections reveal a lot about what’s going on inside.” It’s empowering to know that it’s their issues and not yours.

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Are You Ready To Be His Friend Mom?

I am trying my best in my heart -Tienna

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Love Letter To Myself

Dear Donel,

When I was looking for somebody to live with for life I chose you.

I wanted somebody who would love God and commune with Him daily. Whose faith was grounded in a relationship with God, not with religion?

I wanted somebody who wanted to be a wife and a mother. I wanted somebody who cares for others and shares unconditional love.

I wanted a compassionate caring body. I was not looking for perfection I was looking for LOVE.

You were what I was looking for.

You are an amazing wife who loves her soul mate.

Your love for your children is unlike any I have ever witnessed. I can see on your face how much you love them. You want to share your life with them, but you want them to be them.

You love and accept people where they are in life, not where you want them to be.

You are enough!

You are everything I wanted.

Thank you for loving me.

Your Soul

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Want to Have Kid’s-Take My Advice

Advice for My Children, When They have their Own Children

Have children when you really want to have children.

You Are Responsible for them for your whole life.

If you can’t take care of yourself, don’t have children until you can.

I really wanted you Barbie, Trinity, and Tristan.

Trinity Barbie and Tristan with Barbie’s Funny husband in the background.

I wanted my children.

When asked, at the age of 14, what I wanted to be when I grow up and I said a wife and mother.

My whole life has been about my children.

I love them so much.

Each and every year will be different.

Find what is best for them.

Best shows, best schooling, best food.

What foods are they intolerant to?

This will make a big difference in their health, so find out early, the younger the better.

Best medical treatment; Herbs, essential oils, Homeopathic medicine, yoga, meditation

What was watched on TV, what music was listened to, books we read, what we eat, where we shopped, all revolve around my children: Veggie Tales, My Little Pony’s, classical music, Baby Einstein, Discovery  Toys, Baby Signs, Signing Times, Hooked on phonics, Butterfly Ballet, All Dr. Suess books, The Giving Tree, Goodnight Moon, Twilight books and movies,  Starfall, Home-school Advantage, Time4learning, Khan Academy, Justin Beiber, AFI, Tylor the Creator, Greys Anatomy, Medium, Walking Dead, So You Think You Can Dance, Taco Bell, Chuck E Cheese, Bushes Chicken,  Ringling Bros. Circus,  Barney, Finding Nemo, Luckey Vitamin Shoppe, Amazon

Sing to them. Make up song for each one.

Little Moonbeam, Little Drummer Boy

Have Special songs: Barbie: When I See You Smile by Bad English Trinity: More by Matthew West  Tristan: Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol.

Massage them from birth.

One of the best way to calm a child. Lavender oil foot massage.

Just remember you don’t have all the answers. Read books: learn from experts. If you don’t follow my advice you will have the same problems your parents had with you. You can only do what you know, what you were taught growing up. If you were yelled at spanked or just left to defend for yourself: you will repeat the cycle if you don’t learn something different.

How do you say I Love You?

Love You More

No, I Love You More

I Love You The Most!

I Win!!!

Love You Always and Forever

Forever and Always

Love you to the Moon and Back

I love my children so much it hurts.

Everyone says they love their children.

But your actions will show if you just love them because you had them or if you live for them.

Live for your children.

Be around them as much as you can.

I didn’t have terrible two’s or any other behavior problems with them until they were a teenager. And when they acted up, I could get them help because I was with them.

I homeschool because having them away from me around people who don’t care about them as much as I do was not acceptable.

Spend each day looking at your children and fill your heart with love.

Barbie, Trinity, and Tristan

You are Loved by your Mommie

 

 

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Best Solution For Head Lice

Lice infect millions each year

Lice infestations are most common in young children, who often contract the bugs through the way they play and interact with one another.

The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports about 6 million to 12 million infestations occur in kids ages 3 through 11 years old each year.

Is your child at risk?

Head lice are a common problem because of its highly contagious nature yet completely treatable. Pediculus humanus capitis or head lice infestation affects most children at some time during their school days.

Unfortunately, most physicians prescribe toxic prescriptions to kill the lice.
Please read this story before you use these toxic products.

When treating my child for head lice, I never thought about the harm it might be bringing to him. I felt only the anxiety all mothers feel when they discover bugs in their child’s hair. It never occurred to me that a physician-prescribed shampoo could be a dangerous and potentially fatal pesticide.

Telling our family’s story is extremely difficult for me. It requires me to confront my demons. It is agonizing to accept my role in my son’s pain and suffering. The memories are vivid and haunt me through the night. If I think about my role in Jesse’s pain and suffering, I’ll never make it through the day. I fought so hard to keep Jesse alive; it is a daily challenge to handle the reality that I may have contributed to his death.

Our nightmare began in 1984. There was an outbreak of head lice in our local elementary school. Several children were discovered to have lice, including Jesse’s older brother Jason. Our children’s pediatrician prescribed Kwell shampoo with refills. He never mentioned it being a pesticide product..advising only that it could cause skin and eye irritation. The doctor ironically suggested “just to be safe” I treat the entire family, even though Jason had been the only member afflicted. I followed his recommendation shampooing my husband, myself, Jason (age 7) and little Jesse (age 2). I repeated the application on the following day as the prescription instructed.

Approximately two months later, Jesse was playing “Superman” and fell to the floor with extreme stomach pain. I rushed him to the emergency room. My whole world changed that night. A liver and spleen scan revealed enlargement. Blood work indicated unusually high amounts of lymphocytes and white blood cells. Blast cells were also present. A bone marrow aspiration test confirmed our fears – A.L.L. – acute lymphobastic leukemia.

Jesse was hospitalized and received chemotherapy for six weeks until he achieved remission. During this time, the doctors asked many questions.. “Had there been a family history of Leukemia?” “What about chemical or electromagnetic field exposures?” There were no questions concerning head lice shampoo or anything similar. The connection never even crossed my mind.

Jesse sailed through the last of his chemotherapy, and remained in remission. He had been off treatment for over a year, and cancer free for several years when he started elementary school. Our family and his doctors were feeling optimistic that he had beaten his cancer.

A note from the school nurse was sent home a few months into his first school year. There had been cases of head lice reported. My reaction was panic. “Not again!” I brought out the lice shampoo and treated my family…as the doctor had said, “just to be safe”. Two months later Jesse relapsed. I am very sad to say this scenario played out two more times within the next five years. The fact that I did not get the connection is the guilt I must live with the rest of my life.

Jesse’s final relapse occurred after a bone marrow transplant. When the doctor called, he had more than the gut-wrenching news of my son’s relapse. The doctor explained that this relapse had been very abnormal and unusual. In fact, only a handful of similar ones had been documented worldwide. Jesse’s relapse had occurred within the new donor marrow. He had received marrow from his baby sister Bobbie Sue – her marrow was female XX chromosomes. This was leukemia in the new XX marrow. This was scientifically profound because relapse by definition is “reoccurrence of the original cancer cells not eradicated by chemotherapy, radiation, or surgery”. There was none of Jesse’s old marrow remaining. This was not the original cancer: it was a new cancer in the new marrow.

My reaction to this news was complete panic. My concerns were that my daughter now also had leukemia. The doctor assured me this was not the case at all – Bobbie Sue was fine. He went on to explain that this relapse, however, did strongly indicate an environmental trigger. He asked me to try and recall if Jesse had been exposed to any substance prior to initial diagnosis and relapse. The only commonality I could remember was I had used the shampoo before his diagnosis and each subsequent relapse. It was very hard for me to believe, however, that head lice shampoo was a carcinogen. I embarked on research to prove to myself that I could not have possibly done anything to harm my son. My heart broke when I discovered how this shampoo was a neurotoxin pesticide and inherently dangerous. There was evidence strongly suggesting a link between this pesticide product, cancer, and neurological problems.

Armed with this knowledge, I was convinced we could win this battle. I would help Jesse get well and protect him from this dangerous trigger. Unfortunately, I was too late. He passed away September 11, 1993. Jesse was and remains my little soul mate. There is not a day that passes that I do not think of him and deeply miss him.

Our family has felt betrayed by a system we assumed would protect us. Prior to using these FDA approved pesticide shampoo treatments, all members of our family were healthy. Following the exposures, Jesse was diagnosed with acute leukemia and passed away 09-11-93, Dale (Jesse’s father) was diagnosed with chronic leukemia – he passed away 02-12-98 and Jason (Jesse’s brother) has a diagnosis of chloracne, a condition associated with pesticide exposure.

For years I was unable to do anything but grieve, but I now know that it is critical to get this information out to other families so they can make the safest choices possible. I made a decision not to focus on how differently the lives of my family might have been if this information had reached us sooner. After careful thought, I decided to take that energy and direct it towards trying to educate and hopefully protect other children and their families by working with the National Pediculosis Association to promote their message of pesticide-free manual removal of head lice and nits. Jesse would want it that way

 Home Remedies To Get Rid Of Head Lice

Garlic

Lice are not fond of the strong aroma that garlic puts off and the fact that it can suffocate them makes this a highly effective home remedy. Grind ten or more cloves of garlic into a paste and mix in three teaspoons of lime juice. Apply the mixture directly to the scalp. Be sure to cover all the scalp. Leave the treatment on for thirty minutes and rinse with hot water. The strong fragrance of garlic can suffocate lice, ultimately killing them.

Mayonnaise

Not only is Mayonnaise is an excellent natural conditioner and natural hair straightener but also a great way to suffocate head lice.

  • Apply mayonnaise liberally to your hair and cover with a plastic bag or shower cap
  • Let the mayonnaise set on hair for six hours
  • Shampoo your hair as usual and blow-dry (the heat kills the lice also)
  • Comb through your hair using a nit comb
  • Repeat this procedure once a week for two months
Salt

Salt desiccates lice and eventually kills them.

  • Combine a quarter cup of sea salt with a quarter cup of apple cider vinegar
  • Spray the solution on your hair and leave it for 2 hours
  • Wash as usual and condition

 White Vinegar

White vinegar is such a versatile, non-toxic substance and is even effective in eradicating head lice. Mix equal parts vinegar and water and pour over hair. Comb hair thoroughly.

Orange Juice

Lice detect the acidity of orange juice. Apply 100% pure orange juice to your head and scalp. Put on a shower cap and leave for 30-40 minutes. Comb through with a nit comb and rinse with warm water. Follow with your usual shampoo and conditioner and comb again.

 Listerine

Using Listerine to kill lice is one of the cheapest and oldest known home remedies for getting rid of lice. Soak your hair completely in the mouthwash and put a shower cap for about four hours and shampoo as usual and comb.

Neem and neem oil contains an insecticidal ingredient known as azadirachtin which is a powerful natural insecticide which interferes with the reproduction and growth of head lice. It constricts the swallowing capability of lice which starves them to death. Lice hate the strong aroma of neem oil which will help soothe itching and redness caused by the lice. As an added bonus, neem adds moisture and shine to hair.

Both the leaves and neem oil are useful for treating head lice. Here are a few methods to try:

Neem Leaf Rinse:

  • Put a handful of neem leaves in 3 cups of water and boil until the liquid turns green
  • Remove from the oven and strain, let cool.
  • Shampoo and condition your hair as usual and follow with a neem rinse. Repeat the rinse 3 times.

Neem Leaf Paste:

  • Make a paste by grinding the neem leaves
  • Apply the paste on the scalp and leave for 30 minutes
  • Shampoo as usual
  • Repeat the process 3 times a week for two weeks

Neem Powder:

  • Crush dried neem leaves into a fine powder
  • Combine the powder and equal parts water to make a thick paste
  • Apply the paste to your scalp and through hair and let it set for one hour
  • Wash hair as you would normally
  • Repeat the process once a week for up to four weeks

Neem Oil Shampoo:

  • Add pure neem oil to your normal shampoo (preferably a natural shampoo) and mix well
  • Use this shampoo several times a week for a month

Neem Oil and Coconut Oil:

  • Mix six drops of pure neem oil into a few tablespoons of coconut oil
  • Massage the mixture well into your scalp and let it set for an hour
  • Rinse it off with shampoo and water
  • Repeat this process at least twice a week for a month

Essential Oils

Essential oils are extracted from plants through steam distillation or cold pressing. Oils are loaded with therapeutic properties many of which can help destroy a lice infestation. In a 2012 study, researchers found that a 1% concentration of tea tree oil killed almost 100% of head lice in a 30 minute period. A 2% concentration halted 50% of egg hatch after 4 days. Other oils that are effective against head lice include ylang-ylang, rosemary and lavender are also great options. To use essential oils to kill head lice, mix 20 drops of oil in your regular bottle of shampoo and shampoo as usual. Rinse with apple cider vinegar for added lice killing power.

Need any of these essential oils? 

Tips for prevention…

Follow these tips to avoid getting lice in the first place:

  • Avoid head to head contact with anyone
  • Do not share hats with anyone
  • Keep your hair tied up when participating in outdoor activities
  • Comb your hair with a fine-tooth comb
  • Soak brushed and combs overnight in white vinegar at least once a month
  • Wash your hair with shampoo with tea tree oil.

Here is the book I personally use when a problem comes up.

Donel Rourke

 

 

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To My Future Kids

Do You Have A Dream?

My daughter has a dream to be a mother someday.

That dream will turn into a desire and it will be the desire that will turn into my grandchildren. (When she is 25)

What is your dream?

Ready to turn it into a desire?

Dreams fade, but desires grow.

With desire you Will Find A Way!

Keep catching the waves of success

Donel Rourke