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Listen and tell me what I learned from Mel Robbins.

Also, what are the two questions you should ask yourself to live a life you love?

How many breathes do I tell you to take to reset to break the emotional loop?

Thank you for listening.

Donel Rourke, CCHyp RTTP



Review – “I Can’t to I Can” Challange for Young Children

“I Can’t to I Can”

As an RTT Practitioner helping individuals change their “can’t” to “can” is a rewarding career and now I can help young children learn early how to be their own “Cheerleader.”

The amazing Marisa Peer created the “I can’t to I can” 5-day challenge.

I Can’t to I Can” provides teachers with resources to teach simple brain hacks that can last a lifetime and turn around a child’s negative thinking within a week.

The challenge is aimed at primary-age children (7-10) with a series of mind hacks to help build confidence, self-esteem, and resilience.

Why is this so important? This will give the children the mental stamina to cope with these ever-changing challenging times and the skills that will support them throughout their life when they learn to practice them daily.

It’s broken down into 4 short videos: Instilling the Cheerleader-The Power of Words-The Power of Looping-The Power of Repetition.

The videos are short, around 3 minutes each with a lesson plan for 5 days.

One for each video and the last one to review through the previous four days and consolidate what they’ve learned.

This is available to every teacher even homeschool teachers. Get your free Pack Now!

For more details or to sign up for your free pack.

Donel Rourke, C.HYP.

Be the Parent You Want To Be



  1. I’m grateful for you.
  2. You make me proud.
  3. Your words are meaningful.
  4. You have great ideas.
  5. I love being your parent.
  6. You don’t have to be perfect to be great.
  7. You opinions matter.
  8. You are important.
  9. You are loved. 
  10. I believe you.
  11. I believe in you.
  12. The family wouldn’t be the same without you. 
  13. You are valuable.
  14. You can say no.
  15. You can say yes.
  16. I know you did your best.
  17. You were right.
  18. I accept who you are.
  19. We can try your way.
  20. You are helpful.
  21. You are worth it.
  22. You make me happy. 
  23. I love your creativity.
  24. Being around you is fun.
  25. I can’t wait to hear about it.
  26. Don’t be afraid to be you.
  27. You’re making a difference.
  28. I’m excited to spend time with you.
  29. You are interesting. 
  30. I love seeing the world your way.
  31. It’s good to be curious.
  32. I love the way you tell stories. 
  33. What you did was awesome. 
  34. I admire you.
  35. That’s a great question.
  36. Your friends are lucky to have you.
  37. I trust you.
  38. That was a really good choice. 
  39. Seeing you happy makes me happy
  40. Being your parent is my favorite job.
  41. I learn new things from you everyday.
  42. You make me better.
  43. You are a good boy/girl/child.
  44. Thank you for being you.
  45. I’m so glad you’re here.
  46. You look great.
  47. I understand you.
  48. Watching you grow up is the best. 
  49. That was really brave. 
  50. I forgive you.
  51. I appreciate you.
  52. We all make mistakes. 
  53. Yes, me too.
  54. You are very good at that!
  55. You can try again tomorrow.
  56. Nobody is perfect.
  57. I love how you said that.
  58. Not everyone will like you, and that’s OK.
  59. You did that so well.
  60. I’m listening.
  61. That’s a very fair point.
  62. You are beautiful inside and out.
  63. I love you.
  64. I could never stop loving you.
  65. You are enough.
  66. You make my heart full. 

This list was passed on from another therapist and I use this when I work with individuals to help them be the best parent to themselves. You see most of us grew up wishing, hoping, praying for our parents to say all the right words.

You cannot change the past, you can only change the meaning of the events that imprinted in your mind.

During an RTT session I guide you to be the loving parent to yourself. To say all the words you needed to hear but didn’t. The healing that takes place is magical to watch.

So for all my parents these are the words your children really need to hear.

Say them often, say them everyday and watch as your children blossom into the incredible individual they were born to be.

For the adults that need to heal from their past so they can tap into their full potential schedule your free consultation to find out how RTT can help you.

Donel Rourke, C.HYP.

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You Are Not Falling Apart, You are Breaking Free

Me: Hello God.
God: Hello…
Me: I’m falling apart. Can you put me back together?
God: I’d rather not.
Me: Why?
God: Because you’re not a puzzle.
Me: What about all the pieces of My life that fall to the ground?
God: Leave them there. They fell for a reason. Let them be.

Me: You don’t understand! I’m breaking up!

God: No, you don’t understand. You’re Breaking Free!
You’re transcending, evolving. What you feel are growing pains, motivators that cause you to look beyond your present circumstances. You’re getting rid of the things and people in your life that are no longer serving you, they’re keeping you stuck. These pieces are falling away for a reason.
Take a deep breath and let those things that no longer serve you fall away. Stop clinging to pieces that no longer benefit you. They’re not yours anyway. They’re just experiences. Their usefulness has past, they’re not for you any longer.
Let them fall. Let them go.

Me: Once I start doing that, what will I have left?
God: You will have yourself, Only the pieces that make up your true essence.

Me: I’m afraid to change.
God: I keep telling you:


Me: Remembering Who?

God: Who I created you to be!
A spirit inhabiting a human body. You are light, love, charity, hope, courage, joy, mercy, grace compassion, and YES forgiveness.
I made you for so much more than those shallow fragments that ego HAD convinced you that you are. No longer decide to adorn yourself by clinging to disillusion, and fear.

Let those things fall away. I love you!

Don’t change! Become !

Don’t change! Remember!

Remember and Be who You truly are.

Choose the life I created for you.
I’m gonna keep telling you this until you remember.

Me: There goes another piece.
God: Yes. Let it be like this.
Me: So… I’m not broken?
God: No, but you are breaking free, breaking through the darkness, becoming the dawn.

It’s a new day. Remember!!!

Remember who you really are!!!”

Author Unknown

You are Enough

Donel Rourke, C.Hyp

Anti Bullying Techniques

I really do not like it when someone bullies me.

In the past I took it personally. Now I don’t allow the bully to have power over me.

You see when you choose “not” to let in opinions that hurt you, then you become bulletproof to criticism.

Read that line again.

Do you see the word, “CHOOSE”? It is your choice to let something in or not.

Pay attention! No one can ever make you feel bad about yourself unless you let them.


Do you know that the most critical people are their own worst critics?

They are because they are expressing outwardly their own inner criticism, hurt and pain. The bully is “Hurting” so much on the inside, that they project what they live. They are getting hurt, bullied and made to feel they are not “Enough” by someone in their life, usually a parent. By understanding this, we can arm ourselves with the knowledge that it is not about “Me” it is about “them”.

Best-selling Author, Motivational Speaker and Leading Celebrity Therapist & Pioneering Hypnotherapist Trainer, Marisa Peer shares how simple truths can change your life.

Here are Marisa’s 5 things you can say to someone who tries to criticize you:

  1. “Thank you for sharing that.” If someone says something hurtful, you are acknowledging their opinion, dissipating any negative tension, but you don’t have to let it in or accept it.
  2. “I’m sorry I didn’t hear all of that, please can you repeat that slowly?” By asking them to repeat it and really think about what they are saying, they will often take it back or consider how it may come across.
  3. “Are you trying to hurt my feelings? Are you trying to make me feel bad about myself? Why would you say that?” If there’s a positive intention behind the criticism, by asking this you can understand the motivation behind it.
  4. “Well, that’s not going to work, I am not going to let that in.” Just like the Holy man, you don’t have to accept criticism, you can choose not to let it in. You cannot stop people criticizing, but you can change the way it affects you.
  5. “While we are sharing, did you know that critical people have the most criticism reserved for themselves? They don’t like themselves, they are their own worst critic. Your outer projections reveal a lot about what’s going on inside.” It’s empowering to know that it’s their issues and not yours.

Law of Control

Fear Of Not Being In Control

What is it that you are afraid of? Flying, public speaking, snakes, dying, not making good grades, heights, closed spaces, open spaces, the dark, getting sick, the government, and the list goes on and on. It is none of those things listed above that you really are afraid of.

What you are really afraid of is NOT BEING IN CONTROL.

The LAW OF CONTROL begins and ends with YOUR THOUGHTS!!!

Your Thoughts control your Emotions,

Your Emotions control your Actions,

Your Actions control your Events.

You want to know the great news?


Please feel free to reach out to me to help you to take back control of your thoughts and in return, you will have control of your life.

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10 Drops of Peppermint EO(Pure from Melaleuca

Melt the first 5 ingredients in a double boiler then remove from heat and add the rest of the ingredients. Pour into glass jars so it can cool.

Products linked below are the ones I have personally used and can only testify to how well they work.


Couples Challenge During This Quarantine Time

  1. Water at least 100 oz with 1/4 teaspoon Himalayan salt.
  2. Sleep – Regular sleep hours, try to go to bed at the same time and get up the same time. Even on the weekend!
  3. Sugar – Women only 20 grams (4 3/4 teaspoon) Men 30 grams(7 1/4/ teaspoon)
  4. No snacking. Three meals top, best only two meals. No calories in between meals. This includes drinks.
  5. Intermittent fasting (16/8) At this point, the hormone HGH (human growth hormone) really starts to ramp up! This is known as your “fountain of youth,” HGH is a good hormone to have! Here are some of the possible positive benefits of increasing HGH naturally!●Increase strength●Increase energy levels●Maintain lean body mass●Reduce the percentage of body fat●Natural hair color protection●Sleep better quality and deeper●Younger and healthier skin●Reduce wrinkles●Decrease depression●Increase stamina●Increase immune system function●Increase power of memory●Increased cardiac output●Having normal blood pressure. At the 24hour of a 24 hour fast is when your body starts to repair itself. This is called autophagy it’s best known as the body’s way of turning the clock back and creating younger cells.
  6. Exercise Everyday. At least three times a week get your heart rate up. (Sex is a bonus workout) The other days focus on strength and flexibility. With weights or without this is up to you. I love doing bodyweight exercise so I have no excuses to not work out. Yoga, Pilates, Tia Chi, and Qu Gong are not only great for the body but are amazing for the mind.
  7. Meditate every day. Guided meditation works best for me because my mind usually needs to be told what to do. I listen to Fractal Healing every night before going to sleep.

So how are you going to spend your Coroniacation?

Healthy and in love with your partner or frustrated and sluggish?

Here is a free e-book to Jumpstart Intimacy.

What you think, what you eat and how much exercise you get is all up to you.

If you are not living your happiest, healthiest Sexiest life make the changes listed above. If you need education and support on any of these areas sign up for my next accountability group.

4 Tips On How To Not Gain Weight During The Holiday

Don’t Get Stuffed

It’s no shock that the average American consumes about 4,500 calories and up to 229 grams of fat1 on Thanksgiving!

Good news: We’ve got 4 simple tips you can try this holiday season, so the bird is the only one stuffed at the end of the day.

1)Don’t go overboard on appetizers

It’s easy to consume 1,500 calories before the dinner even hits the table.

 2)Watch your portion sizes

The average plate is 14 inches wide, and we tend to finish 98 percent of the food on our plate.4  To trick your brain into thinking you’ve eaten enough, use a smaller plate and/or fill half a normal plate with salad. (Just go easy on the dressing!)

3)Go easy on the booze

Limit yourself to one drink before or during dinner and one drink after dinner. Drinking too much alcohol can increase your craving for salt and may set you up to eat 30 percent more than you intended.6

Get tipsy at dinner and all your inhibitions will be down by the time dessert comes.

4)Forgive yourself

Did you read this and still overeat? Don’t beat yourself up about it; it happened, now move on. Get up and encourage someone to take a walk with you.

If it’s too cold for a walk, break out a game of Twister or fire up Beachbody On Demand and do a fun family workout like Double Time.

Getting moving will ease some of your guilt and also start the digestion process.7


So make sure to follow these 4 tips this holiday season. If you still need support during the holidays feel free to join my Support/Challange Group.

Together we can make the holiday season a Fit One!

Alzheimer’s Risk: Limit Your Sugar Intake

This is my grandmother who was 93yo and while she looks great for her age on the outside, her brain is ridden with Alzheimer’s. 

High blood sugar is perhaps the best-known offender when it comes to your ability to think, learn and remember…and develop stroke and dementia (including Alzheimer’s)!

Eating more sugar DOUBLES your risk of cognitive impairment.

Early intervention is now recommended in the prediabetes phase and if your A1C or fasting glucose isn’t in an optimal range, pay attention bc its the biggest factor for cognitive decline!

Here are some tips to help…
🥗Control your carb intake. Carbs are broken down into glucose which ⬆️ blood sugar so decreasing total amount can help normalize it
Start practicing IF (intermittent fasting) using the 8/16 approach
😴Sleep 7-8hrs (even 1 night of bad sleep will ⬆️ blood sugar)
🥦Increase your fiber intake
🏃🏼‍♀️Exercise daily
💦Drink filtered water & stay hydrated
💆🏼‍♀️Stress management is key! Chronically high stress raises cortisol and blood sugar!
👩🏼‍⚕️Monitor your own blood sugar. (Fasting BG of 70-85mg/dL is optimal, less than 100 is “normal “, 100-125 is pre-diabetic and over 125 is diabetic!)
The way we treat our bodies in the first half of our lives will determine how the second half looks!

Be informed that YOU have the power to control way more than you know when it comes to your health!

Sign up today for my Health of It Group to learn more about how you can live Your Happiest Healthiest Life.


What Is The Cost Of Becoming A Beachbody Coach

Have you ever wondered what it costs to become a Beachbody coach and what you will need to do in order to become one?

Do you want to be a coach to save money on products,

do you want to make money,

or do you want to do both?

I am not hiding anything from you as well. This is your own business so you should expect to have some start-up costs. In reality, these start-up costs are less than a typical dinner out.

  • Buying BeachBody Products get 25% Discount:

Choosing this option would cost you $39.95 that will be paid out as sign up fee while another $15.95 will be paid every month following the initial sign up fee. However, there is nothing more to it. No added fees or costs whatsoever. This is the simplest sign up process. After the 1 time $39.95 fee you will pay $15.95 a month to be a coach, but you will save 25% off of all products. Most people who use Shakeology every month will do this because they end up saving about $20 a month.

  • Enjoying a 25% Discount & Making Money:

If you are going to use a BeachBody program to build a business and also provide products to people, you will have to pay $39.95, the usual sign up fee unless you buy a challenge pack as that would help to waive off the one-time fee. You still to pay $15.95 a month. This gets you your websites as well so it is money well spent. Aside from these two, in order to remain active, you will have to buy or sell 50 volume points worth of merchandise “about $55” after every 35 days or refer people merchandise worth the same money.

(However, if you buy the Challenge Pack whilst the coach sign up process is going on, you will not be required to pay the $39.95 as sign up fee. The cost of every challenge pack is between the range of $160 to $305.

Upon Joining Beachbody Coaching

  • After you join the coaching program, your account status is inactive. This is due to the fact that your account is new and because you haven’t been able to sell anything as yet. Your status will be changed depending on your personal volume points, denoted by PV. The day you earn 50 PV (which will have to be earned in the last 35 days because you will have to make sales in that time period), your status will automatically be switched to Active. Every item at Beachbody comes with different PV points; the points you earn by selling each item depends on its price. The higher the price of the product, the higher the points you will get upon selling it.
  • For instance, 50 PV points are equal to about $55 worth of an item; meaning that if you sell $55 worth of Beachbody item, you get 50 PV points. The plus point is that the PV points include your purchases as well along with the purchases that are made by the customer, either through Beachbody’s site or affiliate links. Additionally, if you want your status to be changed directly without having to fulfill a certain criterion, you may choose to buy the Challenge pack while the coach signup process is going on as that will help in changing the status directly. Beachbody’s system is updated every Thursday morning, so for example, if you buy the Challenge pack on Tuesday, your status will be changed to Active on Thursday.
  • When I was starting out, I was under the impression that I will have to spend $55 every month to stay active but this isn’t true. If you are selling 50 personal volume points worth of products each month, you will not have to purchase anything on your own. Moreover, you will also not have to be active to receive commissions. But this comes with a catch. You can receive commissions even if you are not active but you cannot receive bonuses. There is a big difference between bonuses and commissions. Commissions are earned through customers while bonuses are earned through coaches that you invite to join your team and so on.
  • If you plan on becoming successful at Beachbody and have a successful Beachbody business, you will have to choose the products wisely. Of course! But it is not that difficult to maintain your active status and have a good business as Beachbody because there are many tempting products that you can easily sell. Take for example Shakeology. Placing a home direct order for the product will help you earn 90 PV each month.  This is the product that help save my life so I have no problem sharing it.
  • The thing I love about this business is that you purchase products that you feel like using and want others to use too. Products that are going to help in improving your life not just physically but also from a monetary point of view.
  • What you can do is that you can also use Beachbody Coaching Business just as you use other affiliate programs. The company gives 25 percent discount on every sale that you refer (exclusive of shipping and handling costs). Whenever you start, you are not expected to build a team right away as you can get started on your own. However in my opinion, having a support team is the right way to increase the overall profit you earn through the coaching program. What I like best about the coaching program is that you are not REQUIRED to do anything. You can do whatever you are comfortable doing.

How to Be successful as a coach watch this video!


Becoming Successful At Beachbody

  • Say that your motive is not just to sell Beachbody products to earn small commissions. Rather, you have a passion to proceed and make it to the top. What should you do?

In my opinion, you should become an Emerald Coach. To become one, you will have to personally sponsor 2 coaches under you.

There are several perks of becoming an Emerald Coach.

First and foremost, you become eligible to enroll in the Beachbody Customer Lead Program. What does that mean? Beachbody provides you with customers but for this to happen, you have to become a member of Team Beachbody Club for which you will have to pay a fee of $38.87 every 90 days. There are a few other steps, like filling out your Teambeachbody profile, but it is all worth it when you get free customers. Remember that $100 million a year Beachbody spends on advertising? Well all those customers from the infomercials are handed off to Emerald coaches. Pretty sweet right!

Other Costs To Keep In Mind

  • After you establish yourself as a Beachbody Coach, you might want to take a few things into consideration that are going to help you expand your business. These things include setting up your own site, product samples, business cards and more. All these things such as business cards, brochures, t-shirts, promotional DVDs and others can be ordered by visiting an area offered by Beachbody in their online ‘office’. All of these items are available for a price tag (of course). For example, 250 single-sided cards can be purchased for $28.99.
  • I personally believe that once you get your bearings, you should invest in these items because at the end of the day, you are looking to market and establish yourself and not the brand and in order to do so, you will have to make an extra effort.
  • I also feel that you should definitely choose to establish your site or blog as that is really going to help you market effectively. Beachbody gives individuals their own store but the only way that ‘store’ will be accessed by others is if it has an online presence. See, the internet platform is massive. There is a gazillion of sites and people won’t be redirected to your site on their own. You have to give them a reason to visit your site or blog to learn more about the products. Every business does has its own website or blog especially nowadays and there is absolutely no reason why you shouldn’t go for it. Put a site together and make it interactive.

Bottom Line

Without making an effort, you will not be able to make the most out Beachbody’s Coaching Program, just as in the case of any other thing in life. You will have to work on it, you will have to spend some money and you will have to make a constant effort if you want this to go a long way.

For any business that you might consider running, you are going to have to work your way to the top. You will have to spend some hours planning, incur costs and additional costs just to make sure it runs successfully and Beachbody is no exception either.

One thing I can guarantee is that once you get the hang of it and you get going in the right direction, you are going to earn a lot of money and isn’t that what we all want? but again, nothing will work out if you don’t make a conscious effort so make sure you do.

Still, don’t know if this is for you watch this short video from Beach body’s CEO.

If you are ready just click on the link below.