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My First Interview on a Podcast

I would love the feedback.

I was nervous but I turned it into excitement and I had fun.

Love my newfound confidence.

2020 has been an amazing year for me.

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90 Second Rule

When you feel an emotion rising up in you, is it coming from an outside source or from your own thoughts?

One thing I tell myself and those I counsel is to truly feel the feeling that you are feeling, for only 90 seconds.

Truly feel joy, happiness, anger, sadness, whatever emotion shows up “FEEL IT”. After the 90 seconds, you are no longer feeling the feeling because of an emotional response, you are now creating that feeling from your thoughts and beliefs.

Stop!!!

Don’t stay caught up in the emotional loop.

That is how you find yourself living in the known past or the predictable future.

Live in the now.

Feel the emotion of “NOW”!

Not what has happened or what could happen.

The only true reality is the present moment.

The present moment is the reality that we need to base our emotional wellbeing on.

“When a person has a reaction to something in their environment,” she says, “there’s a 90-second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop.”
“Something happens in the external world, and chemicals are flushed through your body which puts it on full alert. For those chemicals to totally flush out of the body, it takes less than 90 seconds. This means that for 90 seconds you can watch the process happening, you can feel it happening, and then you can watch it go away.”
“After that, if you continue to feel fear, anger, and so on, you need to look at the thoughts that you’re thinking that are re-stimulating the circuitry that is resulting in you having this physiological reaction, over and over again.”-Harvard brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor

Break the Emotional Loop

1)Identify the Emotional Response:

How does it feel?

Does it have a color, shape, or size?

Where in your body do you feel this response?

2) Label/ Name the Emotion

Emotions are Intense: Joy, Fear, Anger, Enthusiasm, Attraction. Simple terms to ask yourself do I feel mad, sad, glad, afraid, or ashamed.

3) Feel the Feeling

Feelings like happiness, worry, contentment, bitterness, love, are all side effects of the more intense emotion of joy, fear, anger, enthusiasm, and attraction.

Allow the emotion to happen without judgment for 90 seconds. Feel the feeling fully for 90 seconds then release it.

Let it Go!

If you find you can’t let it go it is because of the words you are telling yourself and the pictures you are creating in your head.

If you find you are having a hard time breaking those thought patterns/beliefs find out how I can help. Schedule your free 20-minute consultation, now.

Donel Rourke, CCHyp RTTP

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Ancient Solfeggio Frequencies Explained

  • UT-396 Hz: The ‘Ut’ tone is thought to help releases you from the feeling of guilt and fear by bringing down the defense mechanisms. 396 Hz frequency searches out hidden blockages, subconscious negative beliefs, and ideas that have led to your present situations and it helps to releases the guilt and fear. Used for balancing Root Chakra. Turns grief into joy, liberating you from guilt & fear.
  • RE-417 Hz: The ‘Re’ tone encourages the cell to functions in an optimal way. 417 Hz frequency puts you in touch with source energy and that allows you to change your life back to your original coding. 417 Hz helps with the undoing of past memories/coding and facilitating change in our lives. It can alleviate our conscious and subconscious minds from past traumatic experiences suffered. Is used for balancing Sacral Chakra. Undoing situations and facilitating change in our lives
  • MI-528 Hz: The ‘MI‘ tone is perhaps the most famous of the frequencies -the “Love” frequency, because of its reputation for creating amazing transformation and miracles. It’s even been linked to the repair of human DNA back to its original coding. 528 Hz activates your imagination, intention and intuition so you can operate at your highest purpose. Having increased life energy, clarity of mind, awareness, awakened creativity, deep inner peace, are the side effects of ‘Mi’. Used for balancing Solar Plexus Chakra. Transformation and miracles take place repairing DNA.
  • FA-639 Hz: The ‘Fa‘ tone improves our connection and relationships with the people around us, whether it’s mending strained relationships or making them even better than before. 639Hz frequency enhances communication, understanding, tolerance and love. Used for balancing Heart Chakra. Used to re-connect and balance, relationships.
  • SOL-741 Hz: The ‘Sol’ tone cleans the cell from the toxins. Frequent use of 741 Hz leads to a healthier, happier simple life, and also helps to change your diet towards real foods which are not poisoned by various kinds of toxins. Tone ‘Sol’ cleans the cell from different kinds of electromagnetic radiations. Another application of this sound frequency is connected to expression and solutions, helping us open up and share our gifts with the world more fully. Used for balancing Throat Chakra. Detoxing cells, solving problems, expressions/solutions
  • LA-852 Hz: The ‘La’ tone returns us to spiritual order, improving our access to the spiritual or sublime. Used for balancing Third Eye Chakra. Awakens your intuition, returning you to spiritual order

 Dr Joseph Puleo, a naturopathic physician deciphered them as follows.

UT – 396 Hz – Liberating Guilt and Fear to bring Joy
RE – 417 Hz – Undoing Situations and Facilitating Change by removing negative energy
MI – 528 Hz – Transformation and Miracles (DNA Repair). Love frequency. Self confidence and self esteem
FA – 639 Hz – Connecting/Relationships harmony with friends/family
SOL – 741 Hz – Awakening Intuition Solving problems
LA – 852 Hz – Returning to Spiritual Order

Bonus Frequency

Earth’s Heartbeat: 432Hz make us feel more calm and balanced

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Stop Being The “Perfect Victim” To Bullies

MARISA PEER’S 5-STEP TO HANDLE CRITICISM & REJECTION WITH CONFIDENCE

Marisa Peer, one of the world’s leading experts on hypnotherapy and voted Britain’s best therapist by Tatler Magazine and the winner of 8 Stevie Awards, offers five steps you can use to deal with daily rejection and criticism.

1) Say ‘Thank You For Sharing That’

When someone criticizes you, there is a tendency to either:

a) be on a defensive by arguing back; or

b) just keep quiet and hold back anger but at the same time, letting the words poison your mind.

Marisa advises that you should thank the person for letting you know. By doing this, you’re giving out the message you’re not going to let the rejection in.

You’re not letting the words affect you which means you’re in control of how you feel.

2) Say ‘I Missed That; Could You Say It Again?’

If the person continues to criticize you or if the criticism feels too personal or deep, ask them to repeat what they said.

A decent person would back down at this point. It’s easy to make an offhand comment without thinking but if you ask them to repeat, they will start to realize maybe they are being too harsh.

They are more likely to apologize or ask you to forget what they said.

3) Say ‘Are You Trying To Make Me Feel Bad About Myself?’

However, if the person does repeat what they said, put them in a position where they have to explain themself. By asking them if they want you to feel bad, you’ll know exactly what their intent is.

If they tell you they are not doing it to make you feel bad but just want to share what they feel, then in their own way they are trying to be helpful. If so, just take his words constructively.

4) Say ‘You Can Think What You Like But I’m Not Going To Let That In’

But if they are really being nasty to you, then let them know you’re not affected. Be calm, because nothing frustrates a mean person more than when the person they try to bully isn’t responding to there baits.

5) Say ‘Did You Know That The Most Critical People Have The Most Criticisms Reserved For Themselves’

And then you can end the conversation like a boss with the above phrase. There’s no possible comeback they can give to refute the statement. If they start on a new criticism, repeat the whole process from Step One.

Remember someone can throw seeds at you but you don’t need to plant them, water them and help them grow. Let the seeds of negativity fall away from you. Do not allow them in.

You have the power to stop Bullies and Abusers.

Follow the steps above, build your self esteem and self-worth. You are worth it.

Realize You Are Enough!!!

You are Extraordinary!!!!

You can reach all your dreams and desires!

Donel Rourke

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Your Stinking Thinking

7 Types of Stinking Thinking

Stop your stinking thinking and start getting the results you want in life, in your relationships and your career. The words that you say and the pictures you create in your mind and the mind of those around you will determine whether you live a happy, peaceful, prosperous, fulfilling life.

1)Over- Generalising– saying things like You Always….. or You Never….. are bossy or judgmental. You sometimes…. or you often…. will be more accurate and less confrontational.

2)Over-Emotional Reasoning– Relies on your feelings to determine your actions and decisions. Ask yourself what is the thought that is leading you to this feeling and is it justified? Think about how you react when you are mad, upset, or hurt, do you make good decisions? Now think about how you react when you are calm, coming from a place of peace. Look at how are they different? Which one will give you the results you desire?

3)Making Demands– Words like “Must”, “Should”, “Ought to” are demanding. Instead, use words like “Wish”, “Prefer”, “Want” reflect your feelings and desires.

4)Catastrophes/Future Telling– Predicting the future in a dark and gloomy way. You can not predict the future you can only predict the way you will react to the future. If the “worst” did happen how can you react in a constructive way instead of a destructive way.

5)Mind Reader-  You assume what others think about you and they are purposely doing certain things. Instead, just ask the person if they are thinking about what you think they are thinking. Are they purposefully trying to hurt you?

6)Noticing and Remembering only the Negative– You pay little attention to the positive aspects of your situations. For every negative aspect, focus on 5 positive aspects.

7)Excessive Self Criticism- Putting yourself down and only seeing the bad qualities. Remember you are Perfectly Imperfect. STOP BULLYING YOURSELF. YOU ARE ENOUGH!

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Don’t Believe Everything You Think

Your Mind #1 Job is to Keep You Alive

It’s about survival.

You survive on this planet by avoiding emotional and physical pain.

Your mind’s job is to move you away from that pain to pleasure.

Your Subconscious Mind is Your Habitual Mind

Your core hardwired beliefs are your habit patterns, relationship patterns, your spiritual connection, and all your emotions and feelings and they are all stored in this Habitual mind. 

Even how you learn is stored in your subconscious mind which makes up 95% of your mind, and only 5% is conscious. These core hardwired beliefs are held in your subconscious mind and they were put there from the time you were in the womb to the age of six. 

Your Conscious Mind is Your Creative Mind

This is your normal waking state of consciousness. You are aware of yourself and your surroundings in your creative mind. 

This is where your short-term memory is stored.

Here you can have positive thinking, and make plans about your wishes, dreams, and desires.

This is where you can concentrate and focus on the task in front of you.

All five of your senses are all connected to your conscious mind.

Don’t Believe Everything You Think!

You have thousands of thoughts a day, and up to 95% of those thoughts are the same as the day before. The sad fact is that around 80% of these thoughts are negative. The reason why is because your brain needs to pay attention, to be on alert for any type of danger or pain whether it’s physical or emotional to make sure that you survive.

Remember the #1 job of the mind is the KEEP YOU ALIVE

Your mind only responds to the picture you make in your head and the words that you say to yourself. The words and thoughts that you think every day about yourself and about your life become your reality. If you do not like the reality that you are in all you have to do is change the words that you say to yourself to change the pictures in your mind. Your mind does exactly what it thinks you wanted to do because it believes it’s in the very best interest based on the thoughts and beliefs that are registered from your thinking, your responses, and your interpretation of the life and events around you.

You are in charge of your reality.

You cannot change what is happening around you, you can only change how you respond to it.

You want to be conscious of how you respond to it.

You don’t just want to act in a habitual way. This is how you normally would respond, but you are now conscious of who you want to be and how you want your life to be so you are making some changes.

One of the best ways to do so is by making what is familiar unfamiliar and the unfamiliar familiar. You will have to make the familiar way, the way you have always done it I the past unfamiliar and make the unfamiliar, the way you want to react familiar by consciously doing it every time.

Another great thing about the mind is it learns from repetition. The more you do what is unfamiliar the easier it will be the next time.

This is your mind are you going to tell it what you want in life?

or

Are you going to live on autopilot, just doing the same thing everyday, reacting the same way, having the same relationships, the same jobs?

Start living a Life You Will Love!

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7 Levels of Consciousness and Self Awareness

 

  • Non-Judgment      Absolute Passion- Creation- Intention
  • Synthesis                Inner Joy – Innate Wisdom – Oneness
  • Reconciliation       Inner Peace – Acceptance – Win-Win
  • Concern                   Compassion – Servitude – “You Win”
  • Responsibility        Forgiveness – Co-Operation – “I Win”
  • Conflict                         Anger – Defiance – “You Lose”
  • Victim                           Apathy – Indifference – “I Lose”

Where are you on this scale?

How can I help?