MARISA PEER’S 5-STEP TO HANDLE CRITICISM & REJECTION WITH CONFIDENCE
Marisa Peer, one of the world’s leading experts on hypnotherapy and voted Britain’s best therapist by Tatler Magazine and the winner of 8 Stevie Awards, offers five steps you can use to deal with daily rejection and criticism.
1) Say ‘Thank You For Sharing That’
When someone criticizes you, there is a tendency to either:
a) be on a defensive by arguing back; or
b) just keep quiet and hold back anger but at the same time, letting the words poison your mind.
Marisa advises that you should thank the person for letting you know. By doing this, you’re giving out the message you’re not going to let the rejection in.
You’re not letting the words affect you which means you’re in control of how you feel.
2) Say ‘I Missed That; Could You Say It Again?’
If the person continues to criticize you or if the criticism feels too personal or deep, ask them to repeat what they said.
A decent person would back down at this point. It’s easy to make an offhand comment without thinking but if you ask them to repeat, they will start to realize maybe they are being too harsh.
They are more likely to apologize or ask you to forget what they said.
3) Say ‘Are You Trying To Make Me Feel Bad About Myself?’
However, if the person does repeat what they said, put them in a position where they have to explain themself. By asking them if they want you to feel bad, you’ll know exactly what their intent is.
If they tell you they are not doing it to make you feel bad but just want to share what they feel, then in their own way they are trying to be helpful. If so, just take his words constructively.
4) Say ‘You Can Think What You Like But I’m Not Going To Let That In’
But if they are really being nasty to you, then let them know you’re not affected. Be calm, because nothing frustrates a mean person more than when the person they try to bully isn’t responding to there baits.
5) Say ‘Did You Know That The Most Critical People Have The Most Criticisms Reserved For Themselves’
And then you can end the conversation like a boss with the above phrase. There’s no possible comeback they can give to refute the statement. If they start on a new criticism, repeat the whole process from Step One.
Remember someone can throw seeds at you but you don’t need to plant them, water them and help them grow. Let the seeds of negativity fall away from you. Do not allow them in.
You have the power to stop Bullies and Abusers.
Follow the steps above, build your self esteem and self-worth. You are worth it.
Realize You Are Enough!!!
You are Extraordinary!!!!
You can reach all your dreams and desires!
Donel Rourke